Sunday, 31 January 2010

Abusive Realationships.

Hello lovely ladies!

Just thought I would update you and explain why I've been absent for a few months..
I've been going through a really long nasty messy brake up and it's been difficult to think about much else.
The problems started a good 7/8 months ago but it recently became unsafe for me to be around him anymore.
He is Finally gone and I'm now happier than ever and i'm really really enjoying being single and not having to answer to anyone.
Being away from him has made me realise how much he wore me down and how much of ME I had lost. Realising that I had gone from a strong independent person to someone who was constantly treading on eggshells, fearful and unhappy was a blow. Abuseive relationships are things that happen to other people right? but when you are in the thick of it it's hard to see what's really going on.
Everyday I'm feeling more myself, everyday I feel stronger and everyday I get back a little piece of me he took.
This "man" is going to spend the rest of his life ruining every opportunity he gets to better himself and fucking up every relationship he has because that is all he knows how to do. I almost feel sorry for him. Almost..

If there are any girls out there who are in the same situation I was in, please tell somebody.
There is endless support out there and although it's scary, you need to be strong and be brave. Remember who you are and you will be a much happier, safer person for it!

Thank you SO much for sticking with me, and HELLO! to my new followers!
Hopefully normal blogging will resume once all this has calmed down.
I'm really excited to start my life again and I hope you'll be along for the journey!
National Domestic Violence Helpline
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Sydney xoxo


  1. Can i just say that i've been through the exact same thing so i can totally relate to everything you said. It's strange that its only after the breakup that you realise how much they've actually changed you, it's like they're gradually breaking you down little by little so you dont even notice its happening until suddenly you're wondering how you've ended up in this kind of situation in the first place! It will definitely take some time but you WILL get back to being yourself and you'll be a stronger person for everything you've been through. I definitely feel that way like i wont take any crap from anyone now, the only bad thing is that i struggle to trust guys alot now and i used to be so trusting before so it makes me a bit mad that my ex changed that part of me. That was a really brave post to write so well done xxx

  2. Hiya,
    Yeah it really is like they just chip away at you with the mental abuse until you can't tell what's happening anymore and what's right and what's wrong then do whatever the fuck they like.
    It's really really horrid and completely psychotic. Everything he did seems so premeditated now I look back, it's sick.
    Well, here's to us for being brave and getting out right? Stronger women and better people for it.

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  4. That last comment says it all,really. Who could that be? A very sad little man?

  5. I was also in something similar over a year ago, and what annoys me the most is that I'm still not over him, despite what he did to me. It's comforting to know I'm not the only one and I would NEVER want to be put in that situation again. xxx